I’ve been trying to think of the best way to articulate my feelings lately, since there are so many running around. I’ve been trying to consider how to do it in such a way that they can be understood by any person reading. What feelings can almost anyone relate to or understand on a personal level. Example, most men don’t understand what it is for a woman to consider her safety when walking down a street at night. And most women don’t know what it is to walk down a street at night without a worry or care.

Someone who hasn’t had an exact experience as you, can’t be expected to understand. But I believe when you take specific context out of a story and really focus on the emotion and the feeling, that’s when people can start to relate in their own way. What I am trying to get at is - I’m trying to better relate to people, to understand where they are (emotionally, mentally), and for them to understand where I am. And to do all of this without it seeming like an enormous deal.

Another example, I got braces on last year at the age of 23. Not everyone can relate to that specific experience, but if I put some emotive describers to it, I’m sure it will change the thought process. IE - I had an experience where I felt really self-conscious, body conscious and because of it I felt less beautiful - I would be in constant pain for days at a time - I’m getting use to a new way of life.

Maybe you think this all sounds dramatic, however, these are all feelings that have stemmed from getting braces on. I remember an incident in school, something happened and a girl in our class was really upset because her grandmother was sick in hospital. She said it was the worst thing to happen to her family and she had never been so upset. Another class member got angry as they had lost a parent earlier in life. And to them, this was nothing to be complaining about. I wonder if the context was removed, if the two individuals would have interacted differently? Fear of loss, of loosing a loved one - Sadness - Anxiety - Alone - Anger - Grieving - Separation.

I think when you describe the situations via emotion, people have the ability to better relate, show more compassion and less judgment.

I’m not a researcher, but I guess I’m a chronic people watcher/observer. Don’t they say if you do 10 minutes of research every day for a period of time, you become an expert? Something to consider perhaps.

In all honesty, I would be interested in your opinion on this, inbox me, leave a comment, tell me how wrong I am.

Lets get talking,